Open Site Navigation
  • Colton James Townsend

pg.98 My Empowering and Disempowering Beliefs

This exercise is forcing me to examine all of the internally held beliefs I have about myself and the world I inhabit. Strengthen the good ones and undermine, then replace the bad ones (those that do not serve me).


Working with Empowering Beliefs (EBs)

Turn positive beliefs which serve me into convictions = a faith and sense of certainty!


Of my three most empowering beliefs, answer these questions (thinking in terms of processional effects):

  • How do they empower me?

  • How do they strengthen my life?


EB1: I'm very good with design and arrangement of components in general


How does this empower?

I am confident in my abilities to create systems and processes to achieve outcomes and develop my skills effectively.


How does this strengthen my life?

I accept opportunities to design, perform, and offer my creativity to ideas/projects. I contribute and participate with other people using these skills.



EB2: I'm resourceful and can produce products or outcomes with very little waste involved in the process


How does this empower?

I’m certain that I don’t need a great deal of money or material to create a powerful effect in pursuit of my goals.


How does this strengthen my life?

My approach to achievement is hyper-focused on getting results quickly with less expense of time, money, or other resources. These skills make me highly valuable in many engagements, not only in production or waste management.



EB3: If I absorb myself in any subject or skill, I learn very quickly and understand concepts deeply


How does this empower?

I am excited and look forward to learning new skills and exploring subjects. I am highly interested in other people who model excellence and vast knowledge in their field. I lean to great examples and role-models to guide my learning.


How does this strengthen my life?

My curiosity and enthusiasm in learning propels me to engage powerfully with other people. I listen deeply and seek to understand what others are communicating by synthesizing their wisdom with my own.


Summon and reinforce emotional intensity and certainty that my empowering beliefs are true and real so they can guide my future behaviors for the better!



Working with disempowering beliefs (DBs)

Review my lists of limiting, disempowering beliefs, and ask: “What are some of the consequences that these beliefs carry with them?”


Choose my two most disempowering:

  1. I cannot resist temptation for false refuge

  2. I don’t follow through with my commitments for projects and Self-Care


With my two most disempowering, decide: right now, once and for all,” I am no longer willing to pay the price that these beliefs are charging my life.”


Doubt the beliefs and question their validity to shake their reference legs so they no longer impact me. Knock the legs of uncertainty out from my disempowering beliefs!


Questions for two most disempowering beliefs:

  • How is this belief Ridiculous or absurd ?

  • Was the person I learned this belief from Worth modeling in this area?

  • What will it ultimately cost me emotionally if I don't let go of this belief?

  • What will it ultimately cost me in my relationships if I don't let go of this belief?

  • What will it ultimately cost me physically if I don't let go of this belief?

  • What will it ultimately cost me financially if I don't let go of this belief?

  • What will it cost my family and loved ones if I don't let go of this belief?


DB1: I cannot resist temptation for false refuge


How is this belief ridiculous?

I'm resisting temptation to pursue all kinds of "getaway" substances/behaviors right now! And I do this the VAST MAJORITY of the time!


Worth modeling from others?

No, I learned to pursue these kinds of false refuges from people close to me who clearly use them to escape their current reality and change their state synthetically (by drinking to "join the party" or "get laid", for example).


Emotional costs if I don’t let go?

Continual drain on my emotional resources when I continue to pursue false refuges in response to craving, boredom, or a desire to alter my state in some way. Stress won't go away. I'll continue to feel loss and loneliness.


Relationships costs if I don’t let go?

I'll continue to base my romantic relationships out of their ability to serve as another type of false refuge, where I work to sustain another person's affection for me, get sexual intimacy, have a companion, etc.. The people pleasing won't stop and I will continue to betray my values and true desires.


Physical costs if I don’t let go?

Oh, God... My teeth will become more stained and discolored. My skin will dry, wrinkle, and generally age quickly. My hair and nails will wither down. Overall systems deterioration as a result of continued indulgence in unhealthy avenues for mood alternation/treatment.


Financial costs if I don’t let go?

More and more wasted money on shit I don't need. TIME wasted in pursuit and recovery from time spent engaged in false refuges.


Cost to loved ones if I don't let go?

I'll only continue to take/receive while they slowly realize they are only sabotaging my life when continue to give/accept my Bull Shit addictions and refusal to step into my full power. They won't get the best that I have to offer.


DB2: I don’t follow through with my commitments for projects and Self-Care


How is this belief ridiculous?

Throughout the entire course of my life I've stayed committed to several practices for Self-Improvement. I've also kept my focus on individual projects for days, weeks, months, and years in some cases! Yes, I can't keep every idea or program that comes my way and run with it for a lifetime. But, I recognize that by focusing on less commitments, I exponentially improve my chances of following through with the assignment until it's completion. I take great care of myself every day! (Better than most, anyway)


Worth modeling from others?

No, it's not worth modeling the behavior of always switching commitments to some new trend, diet, book, program, system, or whatever. It's better to stick to my core commitments and embrace the process of continuous improvement to daily dedications. It's not worth modeling the kinds of people who glorify consumption of more and more commitments without going deeply into any single one.


Emotional costs if I don’t let go?

Continued frustration at always having to start over and feeling like I'm making no progress in life. Embarrassment for myself when I continually have no progress to show for all of my time and energy and resources available to me. Identifying as a loser, failure, and defeated man.


Relationships costs if I don’t let go?

Less trust and affiliation with business partners, clients, and providers I hire. I won't be engaging with the kinds of groups that included the type of people I most want to build profitable/pleasurable relationships with.


Physical costs if I don’t let go?

I'll never really make a breakthrough or reach the next level of improvement with my health. Not gonna see improvements to my physiology and attractiveness. If anything, the best I can hope for is that my looks and physical condition remain the same, but they'll probably degrade in accordance with the passage of time.


Financial costs if I don’t let go?

Less opportunities to book clients, work profitable contracts, and earn money! I'll be spending money on products, programs, or services which I don't end up using, causing the expenses to be wasted in the long-term.


Cost to loved ones if I don't let go?

Loved ones will be disappointed that I didn't act in accordance with the promises I've made to them. They'll also come to know me as unreliable and feel pity for me as I desperately seek to make changes/progress but never end up being any different.



Drop deeply into my own body and mind to become fully associated with what these beliefs have been costing me, and the real costs in my future, if I do not change!!


Link such intense pain that I will want to rid myself of them forever and then finally decide to do so, now!!


Replacement Limiting Beliefs (RLBs)

Replace each old pattern with a new one by writing down the replacements for the two limiting beliefs I've just eliminated. What is their antithesis?


DB1: I cannot resist temptation for false refuge

RLB1: I am always choosing the pathway of true refuge


DB2: I don’t follow through with my commitments for projects and Self-Care

RLB2: I give my intentions appropriate attention


Drop in and create that association with mind/body.


What are some of the references I have (or can create) to back up each belief so that I begin to feel more and more certain about it?


RLB1: I am always choosing the pathway of true refuge

  • I stop and take mindful breaths when I feel that my emotions are becoming frantic

  • I choose to drink water when I'm thirsty and savor the pure essence of hydrating myself

  • When I indulge in any celebratory activity, I do so with sacred purpose and reward for my efforts

  • When I am in need of aid or relief from painful experiences, I trust in my internal resources and the natural resources of Earth and Life around me

  • I practice RAIN meditation (Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture) when faced with cravings and the prospect of engaging in false refuges, and then proceed in Wise Action

RLB2: I give my intentions appropriate attention

  • I'm writing for myself and publishing work to my blog all of the time and every day

  • I have memberships to the YMCA and ROMWOD where I workout and train my mind/body

  • I've been developing more and more relationships in Walla Walla to business owners, healthy-minded people, and families

  • I'm working on my business everyday and making it more and more real!


Lists of my beliefs


My Disempowering Beliefs

  • My drinking and addictive patterns always sabotage my romantic relationships

  • My drinking and addictive patterns have been a repelling, destructive force in my past

  • I can't work on or maintain the parts and systems involved in automotive, or even my own car

  • I'm not an honest person

  • I don't have a strong memory for details and retelling stories as they happened

  • I am an addict and alcoholic

  • I cannot resist temptation for false refuge

  • I cannot abstain from any behavior or substance that I'm currently addicted to

  • If I start an awesome new project or challenge, I often get overwhelmed, lazy, or try adapting the project so much that it never bring into completion

  • That my professional services cost $40 an hour for my clients ( I want to bring it up to $55)

  • I don’t follow through with my commitments for projects and Self-Care

  • People are selfish and protect themselves by rejecting others and other offers

  • My body is deteriorating in my attractiveness is fading

  • There are ugly parts found throughout my body that I should keep from being seen

  • It's my fault for all of the unattractive parts of my body and personality

  • My failures in the past have resulted in losses and many missed opportunities which I now encounter as naivety in specific areas of knowledge and skill where I have experience in resources, yet am still deficient ( like automotive technology, hunting, computer hardware, or anything else I might have interest in or have been exposed to multiple times, yet still cannot effectively demonstrate my understanding)

  • My handwriting sucks and it will never improve

  • My spelling, grammar, and general usage of the English language is inferior and I'm not learning anything new

  • I'll never have the time or ability to learn Spanish

  • I'm losing my hair and it is an unattractive process at an unattractive stage

  • I feel that my body possesses little strength and my physiology actually overestimates my bodily strength and resiliency

  • I believe that people assume I'm much more loved, gifted, intelligent, capable, or (insert any other positive trait) than I actually am.

  • People aren't genuine when they compliment me or my work.

  • People don't listen to me when I'm talking and trying to find a way of my own to communicate something I want to share/explain to them

  • I lie to people in indirect ways

  • I steal from people

  • I smear my boogers on the bottom side of other peoples' dining tables

  • Not necessarily mechanical skilled with artistic talent

  • I need alcohol when I feel frustrated, discouraged, rejected, lonely, bored, etc.

  • No one will buy what I offer in business

  • No one will accept what I offer them in my personal relationships



My Empowering Beliefs

  • Time is completely manageable with both internal perceptions and objective organization

  • If I absorb myself in any subject or skill, I learn very quickly and understand concepts deeply

  • I'm a pretty good cook who does well by my own intuition and wisdom

  • I know how to be effective with online marketing and web design

  • I am very systems and process oriented which is a huge benefit to me in many areas

  • I can manage my money well and make dollars stretch to the maximum

  • I'm resourceful and can produce products or outcomes with very little waste involved in the process

  • I'm very good with design and arrangement of components in general



Non-Established Beliefs

These beliefs are more so ideas and may as well default them to disempowering.

  • I guess I don't really have a belief about whether I will or will not succeed as an entrepreneur

  • I don't really have a belief about how much money I should be making or want to be making

  • I don't really have a belief about how well received my Ghost writing offers and services are going to be


Exercise from page 98 of Awaken The Giant Within, by Tony Robbins