Updated: Nov 13
Today, I'm going to write back and forth to myself in a series of my first ever self-coaching. This proves to me that I can always make time and put energy toward giving/receiving intentional (heart-centered) communication, even when it's just with myself.
[Little Chief approaches Big Chief at their routine gathering space for the day's medicine ceremony]
Little Chief: Good soggy day to you, sir.
Big Chief: Hmm. Do you think that calling other men such as myself "sir" might, on some level, be regarded as a form of people pleasing and be a sign of you indicating your subservience to me?
Little Chief: Oh! That's funny because I've been thinking a great deal about people pleasing recently....
Big Chief: AND do you feel that by calling me "sir" just now that you were somehow seeking to improve the odds that I will like you more? That I'll be more agreeable towards the offers and attempts to share that you bring to me? That I'll give you something that you want or are desperate for?
Little Chief: Uh, I mean, I would prefer that you like me...
Big Chief: But, Why?
Little Chief: Well, I want to have someone around whom I can communicate with and spend time together so that I don't have to be alone.
Big Chief: So, what's the problem with you being alone? Is being alone what you fear the most?
Little Chief: Well, being alone is certainly shitty and it makes me feel lonely, which leads to a sense that I'm worthless or un-loveable. I've been alone so often throughout my childhood and adult life... Come to think of it, it was mostly during my adolescent years that I began to bring myself very close to other people and engage in an enormous amount of people pleasing behavior. A great degree of that trance-episode was driving toward receiving validation of my sexual worth and "entertainment value", mostly from my straight male and female peers...
Little Chief: Whoa...? That was a strange recollection.
Big Chief: An insight is what that was, Little Chief. That's called Emotional Freedom, buddy. What you found for yourself right there is one of many techniques used in an Emotional Freedom lifestyle.
Whoa y'all... (and I swear I didn't see this until after I had completed the first draft of my piece)
It seems Dave Markwell had a similar format in mind when publishing on his blog wordsbydave.net today!
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