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pg.133 Break Limiting Patters of Feeling and Acting

Pg.124 my answers in red


Decide what I really want and what's preventing me from having it now.


Decide What I want so that I have something to move toward.


What I want = To access True Refuge within myself and respond with Wise Action.


Get leverage:

  • Associate massive pain to not changing now

  • Associate massive pleasure to the experience of changing now!


1) Ask myself pain inducing questions


Make the pain of not changing feel so real to me, so intense, so immediate that I can't put off taking the action any longer!

  • What's the price of not changing?

  • Ultimately, what will I miss out on in my life if I don't make the shift?

  • What is it already costing me Mentally? Emotionally? Physically? Financially? Spiritually?

Focus on how it affects my loved ones, my children, and other people I care about...


Picture in graphic detail how much my failure to change will negatively impact the people who are most important to me.




What's the price of not changing?

I’ll continually experience the damaging consequences of False Refuges when I seek them out to relieve my pain or bring me pleasure. Each time that I choose a false refuge over a true one, I move one step further from True Path.


Ultimately, what will I miss out on in my life if I don't make the shift?

I’ll miss out on the gifts of sobriety and will live my life in a trance-like, confused existence.


What is it already costing me Mentally?

Mental fatigue, fogginess, headaches, lethargy, tiredness, confusion, frustrations, desperation, craving and addiction.


Costing me Emotionally?

Pain and suffering. Loss. Ugliness.


Costing me Physically?

Pain and suffering. Loss. Ugliness. (intentionally repeated.)


Costing me Financially?

Every dollar spent on a False Refuge is almost always a dollar wasted that could have been used to serve my long-term investment interests.


Costing me Spiritually?

Death of the soul. Immaturity and naivety. Distance from peace and understanding.


2) Ask myself pleasure associating questions

  • If I do change, how will that make me feel about myself?

  • What kind of momentum could I create in my life if I make this change happen?

  • What other things could I accomplish if I really made this change today?

  • How will my family and friends feel?

  • How much happier will I be now that I’ve made this change?



If I do change, how will that make me feel about myself?

I’ll feel capable as all hell! Like, if I can overcome addictions and cravings, I can do anything!!


What kind of momentum could I create in my life if I make this change happen?

One after another, I’d be developing healthy and growth-oriented patterns that act in total alignment with my life and business goals.


What other things could I accomplish if I really made this change today?

I’d be so much more efficient in my work and for getting things done in general. I’d have enough mental and emotional freedom to engage much more deeply with other people and hold even more for them when they are in need of being held.


How will my family and friends feel?

They will feel so much more supported and felt by me and my presence with them. They’ll feel like they can grow spiritually and emotionally right there with me!


How much happier will I be now that I’ve made this change?

Loads and loads and loads of happiness will create mountain ranges of happiness in my life, emanating through every layer of fabric in my very being and surrounding auras!! There’s gonna be atmospheric layers of happiness radiating out of me in waves to every corner of the universe and back!



The Scramble Pattern


Think of a situation which makes me feel sad, frustrated, or angry.


Now do the first two steps of NAC as covered above


How do I want to be able to feel?

Safe and in control of my emotional reactions when I reside in True Refuge.


Why do I want to feel that way?

I want to make healthier, wiser choices for myself that I properly exchange any short term pain or discomfort for long term pleasure and attractiveness.


Remember, what's been preventing me from feeling that way is the sensations I've attached to this situation.


Get leverage on myself.


If I don’t change how I feel about this situation, how will I continue to feel?

Out of control, hungover, regretful and shameful. I’ll keep falsely believing that other people are rejecting me.


Do I want to pay that price and continually carry around these negative sensations or upsets I have toward this person or situation?

Fuck no, man!


If I were to change now, wouldn’t I feel better?

Absolutely! I would stick to my schedules and make wise decisions that result in prosperous action. As Will Smith taught me, “I will out create the cycle of destruction.”



1) See the situation in my mind that was bothering me so much.

Picture it all happening in my mind as a “movie”.


I think this could be any experience, real or imagined.


2) Take that same experience and turn it into a cartoon

Change colors, sounds, playback speed, features, and direction of the “movie” in my head to desensitize myself to the experience.


Do this at least a dozen times.


3) Now thing about the situation that was bothering me, and notice how I feel now

Does running the same pattern produce the same negative emotions?? If so, keep scrambling and up the intensity.



Exercise from page 133 of Awaken The Giant Within, by Tony Robbins

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